1. KEEP YOUR BED “KID FREE” THE MAJORITY OF THE TIME: Our rule has always been, no kids in our bed. It’s one thing if they show up at 3 a.m., but starting off in your bed is not good for your marriage.
2. STRIVE TO GO TO BED AT THE SAME TIME: Don’t get into the habit of not going to bed together at night.
3. MAKE PRIVACY A PRIORITY. Find ways to get some privacy like … put a lock on the bedroom door, find some time to sneak off together, or actually schedule a time/date on the calendar and then fight took keep that date.
4. DON’T LET YOUR SELF GO. Good hygiene, sleeping attire, etc are important. As Jeff Foxworthy says, “If your wife wears socks, sweats and an oversized t-shirt to bed on your anniversary … you might need to work on your romance.”
5. DON’T STOP FLIRTING WITH YOUR SPOUSE. Flirting is a playful way to make your partner feel desirable, and nothing says “I still want you,” like flirting.
6. SAY “YES” TO SEX MORE OFTEN THAN YOU SAY “NO”. Nothing will kill a sex-life quicker than constantly being rejected by your spouse. A healthy marriage will not “back-burner” their sex-life.
7. DON’T MAKE EVERYTHING MORE IMPORTANT THAN SEX. If you want to make sure that your sex life goes down the toilet, make sure that you put it at the very bottom of your list of priorities. Put everything else first — kids, your job, housework, TV … anything and everything that you can think of.
Don’t let “life” or “little ones” or “boredom ” snuff out the intimacy in your marriage.