Hello bloggers! Hopefully Trey hasn’t built this up so much that you will be disappointed. I liked all your suggestions for my post. I especially loved the suggestion made by an anonymous person to post about “Ten Way’s to Stay in Love for 20 Years” (and hopefully more)! Here are some things Trey and I have learned from our 20 years of marriage…
- WORSHIP & PRAY TOGETHER. Statistics show that couples who attend worship services together are less likely to divorce than those who don’t. Praying together builds intimacy and communication by sharing you innermost thoughts together before your Lord and creator.
- READ THE BOOK HIS NEEDS HER NEEDS by Dr. Williard Harley, or better yet, take the 8 week seminar. We attended a training seminar and have led 4 of these 8 week seminars. I believe it is the best thing we have done for our marriage.
- DON’T SPEND MORE MONEY THAN YOU MAKE. Financial problems are the #1 cause for divorce in America. Living within your means and striving to be “debt free” will greatly reduce stress in your marriage. Another “must read” is Financial Peace by Dave Ramsey. (Better yet, take the seminar and apply the principles.)
- UNDERSTAND AND ACCEPT YOUR DIFFERENCES. Trey and I are polar opposites. Some of the very things that attracted me to him before we were married were the very things that drove me crazy after we were married. For the first few years of our marriage, I made us both miserable by trying to change him. It wasn’t until I understood and accepted that he is exactly who God made him to be that I could overlook some minor things and truly love him for who he is. Yes, I’m going to suggest another book, but it has made a huge difference in the way I view Trey and other people. Personality Plus by Florence Littauer teaches why people are the way they are and points out the strengths and weaknesses of every personality type.
- KEEP THE LINES OF COMMUNICATION OPEN. How can you remain “one” if you never share your thoughts, concerns, and plans with one another? We have found that going walking together is one of our best times for communication away from interruptions. (The exercise is an added bonus).