1. AVOID CONFLICT:
Avoided conflict will repress anger and lead to depression of feelings. Many couples believe that all conflict is bad, but conflict handled well is actually very healthy in marriage. A healthy marriage has conflict, not withdrawal.
2. BE DISHONEST:
If there is one place that there should NEVER be dishonesty, it’s in marriage. Hiding things from your spouse (text messages, email, passwords) is a sign of BIG problems. Simply tell the truth.
3. AVOID EACH OTHER:
The old saying that says, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder,” for the most part is untrue. Occasionally being gone for very short periods may be okay, but taking a job that keeps you away from your marriage partner on a regular basis is not only dangerous, but most of the time death to a relationship.
Conflict, if handled well, is one of the keys to a great relationship. But conflict and anger that is out of control is deadly to a marriage.
Constant criticism of your spouse is hard on a relationship. Encouragement, not criticism, should be a big part of every relationship.
6. DENY RESPONSIBILITY:
When you constantly deny responsibility for every issue in your marriage, you’re simply blaming your partner and trying to change him or her.
Always remembering the negative things about your relationship is unhealthy and unchrist-like. Have you really forgiven if every time you get in an argument, you bring up past hurts?
8. UNWILLINGNESS TO GROW
You should always be willing to work on your faults and problems in your marriage. Thinking that every problem in your marriage is caused by your spouse is unrealistic. The solution may be changing yourself instead of trying to force your partner to change.
9. BE SELFISH
Demanding your spouse meet your needs is NOT the way to get what you want. Focusing on their needs will most often cause them to focus their energy on yours.
10. FIGHT LIKE A CHILD
Using the silent treatment to force your point is unhealthy in a marriage. So is punishing your spouse by witholding friendship, kindness and sexual fulfillment.
What would you add to this list?