7 DAY BETTER SPOUSE CHALLENGE

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Welcome to the “7 Day Spouse Challenge” that we introduced today on our Facebook marriage page.  This challenge is for couples who would like to grow in their marriage and make HUGE positive changes in just 7 days. We honestly feel like if BOTH spouses are willing to participate completely for the next 7 days, it will GREATLY bless your marriage.

Every day you will have a new homework challenge that you are supposed to do. If you need to flip-flop some days, that is fine, as long as you do them all.

ARE YOU READY? Here you go …

DAY 1 (Tuesday) PRAISE YOUR SPOUSE - Give your spouse a letter/note titled “5 Things I Love About You”. This shouldn’t be hard, because if you can’t come up with 5 things you aren’t looking hard enough.

DAY 2 (Wednesday) LITTLE SURPRISE DAY – Buy a “little something” for your spouse and give it to them today. Don’t spend a bunch of money. It’s not about the amount you spend. Instead, this is about the thought you put behind it. It could be something as simple as your spouse’s favorite candy bar from the store, a bag of chocolate kisses or a gift certificate for a pedicure, etc., but buy something that you’ve put some thought into.

DAY 3 (Thursday) SERVE YOUR SPOUSE – Ask your spouse to give you three ways in which you can serve them today and you pick at least one of those and do for them … cheerfully. For example, wives, if you suggest cook supper tonight, give me a back-rub, and help the kids with their homework, he will choose 1 of those things from your list to do. OR if a husband suggests watch the TV show of my choice, go to bed early with me, and fix my favorite meal for supper, the wife will choose one of those things. If you’re REALLY up for the challenge, do 2 things or all 3!

DAY 4 (Friday) DATE NIGHT – Whether it’s a stay-at-home date or a night out on the town, do something together. It doesn’t have to be expensive or fancy, just the two of you spending time together.

DAY 5 (Saturday) BE SEDUCTIVE – Just like date night last night, make plans for some “us” time tonight. Get the kids to bed early and have plenty of time for one another. Spice it up with something fun like a bath together, some lingerie, candles, etc. Husbands, remember that romance starts EARLY in the day. Sometimes it takes your wife all day to get “in the mood”. You might want to use some of the suggestions from Days 1-3 to help with this.

DAY 6 (Sunday) COUPON DAY – Make your spouse 2-3 coupons (or more) with index cards of something your spouse likes to do. When creating a romantic coupon book, focus on pleasing your partner. Don’t offer a massage coupon if what they really want is a clean car. Offer to wash their car instead. You can also offer a day off from chores, a hot bath, a shopping spree, a movie marathon, a night of cuddling or a weekend getaway. Whether they’re naughty or nice, everyone would love a few little coupons. You might make them for chores they don’t like to do or for something fun that you can do together.

DAY 7 (Monday) REDO DAY – Each of you pick your favorite day from this past week and have a “redo” that day. If your spouse loved “Gift Day” then give them another surprise. If their favorite day was “Be Seductive” then happily redo that day. If it was “Date Night” then you plan another date night. You get the idea how “redo” day works. Just make sure you let your spouse choose, and you gladly take on the challenge of “redo” day.

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Each day on this page (Trey & Lea’s “Stronger Marriage” Workshops) we will be asking for updates on how you’re doing and maybe even a picture from your date night. 

Start right now by “sharing” this post on your Facebook page and tagging your spouse once more so they’ll have the challenge and others can see what you are committing to do. Also, when you share, it will help get more and more marriages involved. Let’s blow up Facebook with this challenge and bless a lot of marriages out there.

May you have an awesome marriage week this week.

~ Trey & Lea

Never Stop Pursuing Your Spouse

Remember all those things you did before you we’re married to win your spouse? Like….

* Calling just to say “hello”
* Buying them little surprises
* Dating
* Talking for hours
* Holding hands
* Praising one another
* Wanting to spent time together
* Flirting
* Trying hard to look nice for him/her
* Serving one another
* Etc

Never stop doing those things. Everyday, work as hard to “keep your spouse” as you did to “win your spouse.”

Old Dogs Can Learn New Tricks In Marriage …

car-door-79744319490_xlargeA few years ago when Lea and I celebrated our 20th anniversary, I decided that I needed to do something new to show her how much I still loved her. Not anything drastic, but just something new after 20 years to say, “You still rock my world.” So I decided on our 20th that it was time for me to start opening the car door for my wife every time she got in the car. So, before I got in the car I’d hoof-it around to her side, catch her door, and then come back and get in on my side. It’s something that our parents and grandparents used to do that our generation has kind of given up.

I’ll be honest after 20 years of NOT opening the door for Lea, it was not an easy habit to just learn and be successful at from day one. It took a while, but yes, an old dog can learn new tricks. I’m happy to tell you that 5 years later I’m one of those guys who regularly opens the car door for his wife.

I started all this with the hopes of showing my wife that she means more to me today than ever before, but what I also learned is that I’ve taught my boys something about marriage. Oh yes, my boys have watched me do it so many times for their mother that now they regularly beat me to their mother’s door to open it for her. I love that my boys are learning how to treat their future wives. 

10 MARRIAGE KILLERS

imagesSometimes it’s the subtle and sneaky things that creep into our marriages that destroy the relationship. Little things so gradual that we don’t really notice them before they’ve become HUGE problems. Be on guard of subtle things like these…

1. LIFE STARTS TAKING PRIORITY OVER YOUR MARRIAGE. Things like paying bills, work, children all start taking priority over marriage relationship.

2. YOU START TAKING YOUR SPOUSE FOR GRANTED. You get comfortable and quit trying in marriage.

3. YOU MARRY YOUR WORK. Yes, you can spend too much time at the office. At the end of your life you will not look back and say, “I wish I would have spent more time at work.”

4. YOU BLAME. Everyone is at fault for your marriage struggles … your spouse, your in-laws, your parents … everyone but you.

5. YOUR SOULMATE BECOMES YOUR ROOMMATE. God never created marriage, so we could have a roommate but a soulmate. Marriage is about intimacy, oneness and togetherness … not just cohabitation with someone of the opposite sex.

6. YOU STOP PUTTING YOUR SPOUSE AND THEIR NEEDS FIRST. You quit working to meet their needs and do the things you once did.

7. YOU AVOID SEX. We know it can be hard sometimes to find the time or energy … especially if you have kids. On the other hand, if your spouse is not having their physical needs met at home – then you are throwing the door wide-open for them to go and get those needs met somewhere else.

8. YOU GET RESENTFUL AND HOLD GRUDGES. Resentfulness and grudges are like cancer … they will slowly kill your marriage.

9. YOU DO THINGS OUT OF DUTY AND OBLIGATION INSTEAD OF LOVE. It becomes all about you.

10. YOU STOP COMMUNICATING. You think, “Why even try, things won’t get better.”

Those are just a few of the things that turns a healthy marriage with your soulmate into a duty filled unhappy marriage.

Remember, a strong healthy marriage takes work. NEVER give up. Keep fighting for your marriage.

4 ROMANCE TIPS FOR HUSBANDS …

1. THE UNEXPECTED SURPRISES. Women love unexpected surprises you give them. An occasional unexpected small gift, come home from work early for some quality time or surprise her with a romantic night out. Consider some weekend morning greeting her with breakfast in bed when she wakes up or fix her favorite meal and clean up after yourself.

2. ARRANGE THINGS WELL. If you take your wife out (and you should do this regularly), you make all the plans. Get reservations at a restaurant she likes, you line out the babysitter and then tell her what time to be ready.

3. DO THE LITTLE THINGS. Women love it when their husbands take time to do the little things. Like giving her your full attention when she’s talking about work, the kids or anything else going on in her life. Make her, and what she’s got to say, more important than your phone, a ballgame or anything else.

4. TAKE AN INTEREST IN HER INTERESTS. Try to find out the thing that your wife always loves to do and agree to do it together on a weekend. AND IF YOU DO, try to honestly enjoy it without complaining. 

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Trey Morgan Here are my thoughts about marriage, family, raising children, humor, faith and the life God intended for us all. I am a Christian husband and father, who moonlights as the minister for the church of Christ in Childress, Texas. My wife Lea and I have been married for 25 years. We are doing our best to raise our 4 boys, who are all growing up way too fast.

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