10 Things Married Couples Should Know About Sex


  1. Sex is a gift from God.
  2. Sex was created to be good not bad.
  3. God designed sex for married people.
  4. Good sex begins when your clothes are still on … early in the day.
  5. Communicate your sexual needs, likes and dislikes.
  6. Sex is fun … have it … enjoy it.
  7. Withhold sex for long periods only by mutual consent. (1 Corinthians 7:3-7)
  8. Make sex and intimacy a priority not a chore.
  9. Say “yes” to sex more than you say “no.”
  10. Don’t scoff at the idea of scheduling sex. Make time for what’s important.

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10 New Year Resolutions For Your Marriage


1. SPEND MORE TIME TOGETHER. Make a commitment to spend more time together this year. One of the best things you can do is commit to a weekly date night with your spouse. This may take you sitting down together with your spouse and planning out your schedule.

2. BRAG ON YOUR SPOUSE REGULARLY. Any old lame critic can pick out someone’s faults; instead focus on pointing out your spouse’s strengths.

3. BE MORE SEXUAL. Touch, flirt, hug and have sex together. Make your marriage sizzle, and as one author put it, “A married couple’s sex-life is a great measuring stick of how their relationship is doing.” A healthy sex-life most often equals a healthy marriage.

4. PRAY TOGETHER. Men, this is where you MUST step up and be a man. Take the lead on this and do it. Your wife will love you for it.

5. DON’T BE HISTORICAL. Fight fair. Don’t bring up past hurts and things you’ve already forgiven your spouse of.

6. CHECK IN. It’s respectful to check with your spouse and let them know where you are, what you are doing and when you might be home.

7. HAVE ONE MEAL A DAY TOGETHER. Turn off the electronics and just visit with your spouse and your children.


9. FORGIVE. The key to being successful in real estate is location, location, location. The key to being successful in marriage is forgiveness, forgiveness, forgiveness. Marriage is made up of two imperfect faulty people. We make mistakes … so learn to forgive.

10. DATE. Date night should be a regular weekly activity if it’s not already. We hear couples say all the time, “We had so much fun when we were dating,” and we always reply, “Why have you stopped?” Date … it’s fuel for your marriage.

* Pick 2-3 that you are NOT already doing and start doing them this year.

May the Lord bless your marriage in 2015. ~ Trey and Lea


8 Ways You Are Killing Your Sex Life



Sex is a gift from God to married couples. He created it to be enjoyed. A healthy sex life is powerful marital glue in marriage, and it’s what separates soulmates from simply roommates. If you’re not careful you’ll let every day common things snuff out your sex life. Here are 8 ways you may be killing your sex life.

  1. YOU’RE TOO TIRED. It’s easy to get in the habit of going a million miles an hour … all day long. Then you find yourself collapsing in bed at night so worn out you’re too tired for sex. We just want to say, if you’re always too tired for sex, it’s time to totally reprioritize your life. Don’t let sex with your spouse become the thing that’s moved to the back burner every time you get busy. Don’t get into the rut of being so busy that you collapse in bed or fall asleep in your chair from exhaustion every night.
  1. YOU’RE NOT MAKING PRIVACY A PRIORITY. We’ve raised kids so we know sex is not always easy or convenient when you have small children. Bedtime with small children is often like the whack-a-mole game … as soon as you get one down another pops up. But there are things you can do to be proactive in your privacy while having small children. Don’t let your children sleep in your bed with you. If they show up at 3 a.m. because they’re scared, that’s one thing, but letting them start out in your bed every night isn’t healthy for your marriage. Also, put a lock on your bedroom door, those are definitely worth the $12 you’ll spend.
  1. YOU’RE WATCHING PORN. Pornography doesn’t spice up your sex life; it poisons it. Sex in your marriage should never be compared to what you see on a video. Porn gives you a very unrealistic view of the male and female body and an unrealistic view of the expectations of sex. Things like love, respect, intimacy and commitment aren’t found in pornography, but are to be found in marriage. So instead of pursuing porn, pursue your spouse.
  1. YOU’RE STUCK IN A RUT. We are creatures of habit, and once we find something we like, we return to it again and again … until we’re tired of it. So don’t always do everything the same way every time. Instead try something or some place new. Sometimes the same old routine can make it feel more like a chore than a pleasure. The word “boring” or “routine” should never be a part of your sex life. Make it fun.
  1. YOU’RE TURNED ON BY TECHNOLOGY. Smartphones, laptops, TV and video games can be hard on marriage when not used in the right way. If you’re spouse is going to bed without you most nights because you’re staying up to spend time on Facebook or a video game, something is wrong. Even worse is when you take these things to bed with you. Your bed is not for technology. In fact, if you want to ramp up on lovemaking, then make this rule: “Your bed should only be used for two purposes — sleeping and sex.”
  1. YOU’RE BODY ISN’T COOPERATING. Don’t take for granted your physical appearance or wardrobe in marriage … especially at bedtime. Wives, your husband is visually oriented, so make sure to be visually generous with your husband. Flannel PJ’s, over sized sweats, or an old pink bathrobe should not be the norm for how he sees you at bedtime. Celebrate your love regularly in a special way, and don’t save the lingerie just for Valentine’s Day. Husbands, the same is true for you, but especially at bedtime. Take a shower, brush your teeth, and wash your face. As most women will tell you, “There’s nothing sexier than a clean man.”
  1. YOU’RE NOT COMMUNICATING. If you’ve never really talked to your partner about what you like and don’t like in the bedroom, it’s time to start. Sex should be something that you’re comfortable talking to your spouse about. If you’re not, the first big step here is just to start talking about it. Make the first move and bring it up.
  1. YOU’RE MAKING SEX ALL ABOUT YOU. Sex shouldn’t be one-sided for just one spouse. It should be each person’s goal to make it mutually enjoyable for the other person. It’s important to make sure your fulfilling your spouse’s needs, not just your own. Husband, take note.


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Trey Morgan Here are my thoughts about marriage, family, raising children, humor, faith and the life God intended for us all. I am a Christian husband and father, who moonlights as the minister for the church of Christ in Childress, Texas. My wife Lea and I have been married for 25 years. We are doing our best to raise our 4 boys, who are all growing up way too fast.

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