Husbands, Improve Your Marriage by Learning To Speak The Language of Romance

992895_219247641563603_2077081204_nHusbands, when you think of the word ‘romance’ you often think of sex, but for a woman romance means something totally different. Romance to a woman are the little things you do like bringing her flowers, surprising her with a dinner out, small talk, a night without distractions, help with the kids and dishes, etc.

For a woman, romance, isn’t about sex … it’s the little things you do that leads up to it. So husbands, if you want to improve things in the bedroom, you must start by serving your wife in other rooms of the house. Something as practical as doing the dishes, folding laundry or helping pick up after the kids could end up being very good for the bedroom later. Here are a few ideas…

  • If she works, stop by her workplace and bring her her favorite drink, or surprise her with lunch.
  • Send her a text during the day to say you were thinking about her.
  • Hide a few Hershey Kisses in a place where she’ll find them.
  • Write “I Love You” on the bathroom mirror with a bar of soap or a dry erase marker.
  • Buy her a lottery ticket and attach a note saying “I won the lottery when I married you!”
  • Write her a hand-written love letter and mail it to her. When’s the last time you did that?
  • Do a chore she doesn’t like.
  • Make her breakfast in bed.
  • Fix breakfast while she enjoys her coffee.
  • Set up the coffee pot so it automatically brews her coffee just minutes before her morning alarm wakes her up.
  • Spend time with her at a craft or trade show connected to one of her hobbies.
  • Make her bed for her.
  • Go for a drive at sunset and take a few pictures.
  • Take a walk, holding hands.
  • Just serve her in someway.

What she wants most of all from you can’t be bought … your time … and it’s the little things. Husbands, don’t make the mistake of thinking romance is what happens in the bedroom … it’s not. Instead romance is what leads UP TO the bedroom. It’s the little things you do all day that get her in the mood.

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Never Stop Dating In Marriage

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We believe that no couple should ever stop dating. Getting a babysitter and going out for a romantic dinner, a movie, a play, a concert or even playing golf together keeps a couple emotionally connected. Ask each other out on dates, plan them, and enjoy each other as you did when you were younger, single people dating each other!

You fell in love while dating and we believe you’ll remain in love if you will continue to date.

8 Things We’ve Done Right In Our Marriage

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A marriage is made up of two imperfect people, so that means there is no such thing as a perfect marriage … nor will there ever be. Lea and I have made our share of mistakes. In fact, many of the things we share with you on this page are the very things we’ve learned the hard way. While we’ve made our share of mistakes, we’ve also done some things right. The most important thing we’ve done right is we’ve never given up on our relationship … no matter how hard things got. Here are 8 other things we’ve done right in our relationship as well …

1. WE’VE FOCUSED ON PUTTING THE OTHER’S NEEDS ABOVE OUR OWN. I’ve found that when I try to meet Lea’s needs, her natural response is to focus on my needs in return. If the other has a need, our goal is to try to meet that need… whether it’s something we like or not. It’s easy to be selfish and put ourselves first or say, “I’ll meet your needs only when you get around to meeting mine,” but it works best when we simply focus on the other’s needs first.

2. WE STILL DATE: We still make time (“make time” because you’ll never “find time”) to date and spend time together. Even if it’s going for a walk, working in the yard or going out for supper together. We have continued to nourish our friendship even after 25 years.

3. WE’VE GOTTEN OUT OF DEBT: In our early years of marriage we struggled with credit card debt. We spent money fast on credit cards and only paid back the minimum. It wasn’t long before we realized how much this had put us in financial trouble and in marriage trouble. We cut up our cards and paid them off. It took a few years to do it, but we owe no credit card debt these days.

4. WE’VE MADE OUR MARRIAGE MORE IMPORTANT THAN EVERYTHING BUT GOD: Our marriage is more important than any career, job, hobby … and yes, even more important than our children. That doesn’t mean we neglect our children or work … just that we give marriage priority over it. God is by far #1 in our lives … but our marriage, and nothing else, is second.

5. WE’VE KEPT SEX AND INTIMACY A PRIORITY … NOT A CHORE – Reconnecting with one another is essential. A 2008 study found that couples who reported any kind of marital intimacy — everything from holding hands to sex — exhibited lower levels of a hormone that produced stress. I think there’s something to that. If more intimacy leads to less stress, we’re all for that. We love our intimacy in our marriage. We want to be married to our soulmate … not to just a roommate.

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Trey Morgan Here are my thoughts about marriage, family, raising children, humor, faith and the life God intended for us all. I am a Christian husband and father, who moonlights as the minister for the church of Christ in Childress, Texas. My wife Lea and I have been married for 25 years. We are doing our best to raise our 4 boys, who are all growing up way too fast.

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